I often read articles all about how it's ok to be alone after a divorce. How it's good to find yourself, become more self aware, learn to be alone.
What a load of cruddy bollocks.
My view is this. I don't want to immediately settle down again. But what I do see is that I have an opportunity now that I've never had before. Yes, of course, I was single in the past but when you're young, you're on the hunt for a mate. You're programmed to look for someone who you can procreate with, a suitable match, and have children before your body clock gives up. You bag a man, get a ring on his finger, get up the duff - job done.
Now, I've had my kids thank you very much. I just want to have fun. I want to be wined and dined, and have the most fantastic sex. I want to see all sorts of different people, and then, maybe, in a few years' time, make a choice about whether to settle and who with.
Internet dating supports this concept. You are not going to limit yourself to talking to just one person at a time. You are going to communicate with several, see a few, and probably get to know 2 or 3, within the same timescale. If you are particularly moral, you would choose one to date.
I say meh to that. I don't think it is immoral to date several guys at this stage in life. It's a different game. The rules are different, expectations different, outcomes different. A note on honesty; if I'm asked, I will be honest. I will ask if it's a problem (as most of the time, it transpires that they are doing it too). It's early days, but I think that if someone says it does pose a problem, then I will have to make a choice on whether to pare down my chums, or whether to say goodbye to that individual.
Having said all of this, my date tonight blew me out. Gah! So I AM alone, with my lonely curry for one, and my popcorn, and my crap TV. Pfffffft.